Why Every Woman Should Try Boudoir...

Before all my male followers hop on here looking for a peep show, I'm still a wifey so sorry to disappoint, but you ain't getting any free looks here. I kept the intimates private, only for my husbands eyes like they were intended for. However, as controversial as a post like this may be, I do think this post has an important message for all my ladies out there.

​In my opinion there are two main reasons why women decide to get boudoir done, the first and probably most popular reason is usually for your significant other to celebrate a monumental event, such as a wedding or anniversary, and I'm here to confirm to you why this is so important. It's no shocker to hear that eventually we get far too comfortable in our relationships. Whether it be you're going on year five, moving in together for the first time or just recently married... we can all remember when we first met "him" (or her) and were both trying to woo each other—for me that was showering and shaving my legs every day, putting makeup on and straightening my hair, wearing push up bras and tight dresses; in summary, TRYING! But if we're all being honest here, you settle down, you get comfortable and lazy... (introduce XL t-shirts and groutfits). After all, from this day forward, for better or for worse you both said 'I DO' and it's the love on the inside that really counts right?


​WRONG. And I'll be the first to admit I'm guilty of this; I've said it time and time again that I'm a woman who prioritizes comfort, but that doesn't mean it's not worth the extra effort to be a little more easy on the eyes for your man or at least spice things up a bit every once in awhile. The last thing you ever want to be is a boring wife.

So what does this have to do with boudoir? I, like most brides, got my boudoir done for the first time before my wedding as a little surprise for my husband. Courtney from Fleeting Fox Photography did a beautiful job of not only capturing the photos and giving me the confidence to get undressed in front of a total stranger, but afterwards making a little leather bound book of my all favorites to surprise my husband with on the morning of our wedding day... This part I would say is pretty typical in the wedding world today, but to spice things up at home I took it one step further and got some of them printed to hang in the bedroom of our new house. Now most people when they hear this are going to think it's a little risqué or say "Aren't you worried someone is going to see them?", but for that I have two counter questions: "How many people actually go in your bedroom on a normal basis?" and "Isn't the bedroom made to be a romantic space for the two of you?" Going back to falling into comfortability in a relationship, the bedroom can slowly, but surely become a place only to which you both rest your heads at night, throw two dogs into the mix and it'll get far from sexy real quick, but it's supposed to be more than that! Your bedroom is your romantic getaway, your kingdom, your 24/7 honeymoon suite at home. And so... on days where I go to get in bed in a sweatshirt and granny panties those pictures make me rethink the effort I'm putting into keeping our relationship alive and thriving. Ask yourself, what does your bedroom say about you?

The second and maybe less common reason women get these done is FOR THEMSELVES! Why is it that we always think of ourselves second? Maybe it's the caregiver personality engrained in us, but we should prioritize this self-love mentality more. Maybe your birthday is coming up and you look hella good for 40 or you've worked your ass off for the last year and dropped a few pant sizes and want to celebrate these life achievements?
​Whatever the reason is we should all feel beautiful and be able to feel comfortable and confident in our own skin. This was something I was not anticipating to get out of my session, but I left absolutely glowing and feeling more alive and confident than ever. We all have our insecurities, which is why signing up for a session where you're in front of a camera in your underwear can feel so frightening, but I can assure you that it'll empower you.
So with this I'm challenging you: go pamper yourself for the day, get your hair and make up done, sip on a little bubbly and go find something you feel sexy in! It's hard in today's world not to be our own biggest critic, with social media showing us only "picture perfect" lifestyles, it can be nearly impossible to avoid comparing ourselves to others or focusing on the negative aspects of our appearance and what we would change. Which is why celebrating our unique beauties and gaining that self-confidence is SO important. 
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LOVE YOURSELF.
LOVE YOUR BODY.
GO GET NAKED BEAUTIFUL.